As I write about acceptance today, it’s Tuesday, January 9, 2024. It’s been 5 years, since my soul-sister, Trina transitioned from this earth into her next realm. It seems unreal how much time has passed, and yet it seems like yesterday we were laughing with each other about how crazy life can be.
The dictionary definition of the word acceptance reads, “The act or process of accepting.” It doesn’t mean giving up. As Sheryl Crow reminds us, “everyday is a winding road.”
Accepting what is—IS a challenge. And, I feel that whatever IT IS in your life, is simply that—IS—until we put a label on it, good, bad, or compare it to something else. For me, not accepting can look like comparing myself, and feeling less than. I am embarrassed to admit it, but I do.
Now, accepting doesn’t mean to be stagnant, we have choices, ask yourself:
Is this something that’s in your control? For example, when arriving late somewhere, you can leave the house earlier next time to arrive on time. Or, simply accepting the fact you are different that you were 10 years ago, physically and emotionally. And, giving that same benefit to everyone else, for they too have changed.
It is out of my control? The weather, other people’s reactions, the economy, this list could go on indefinitely. When we find ourselves in one of these situations, take a deep breath, and accept what IS. Knowing it will change because nothing ever stays the same. Simply look in the mirror ;-)
People in our lives come and go. Physically and emotionally, we may grow in different directions, people get sick and die, and it is up to us to accept it. Period. Because what choice do we really have? It is out of our control. Acceptance doesn’t happen all at once, it’s one step at time. Choosing to move forward instead of being stagnant.
It is also important to give ourselves grace and understanding when we do get upset, and acceptance can not be found in the moment. I promise it will change, I cannot tell you when or how, but that it is inevitable.
Change by no means is simple. I am not telling your anything you do not already know. The invitation of change is allowing it to happen. Whether that is moving energy through your body; sitting in silence; crying and letting out those big sighs; and/or sharing your fears with a trusted friend. I feel change is a deep-hearted process, and it’s different for each one of us. There is no right or wrong way of acceptance. Again, it simply IS. Choosing to embrace this fact however you come to it, will bring peace at some point. It may leave you but it returns. Envision a spiral, it’s shaped with a series of curves, each one above or wider than the one before. When peace leaves us each time it comes back, it is more expansive (wider).
A little side note: Tuesday was my first in-person Qigong class at Vitalize Studio, I had 9 people total. How auspicious is that? Thank you Trina letting me know you giving you are still with me through your signs, symbols and synchronicities.
Wisdom from Lao Tzu,
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.”
LIFE Simply IS.