Is there a difference in the energetics: in thinking or saying out loud, “I want,” as compared to “I choose?” I believe there is; let’s begin by simply comparing the definitions:

WANT
• to have a strong feeling to have (something); wish (to possess or do something); desire greatly.
• to wish for a particular thing or plan of action; “want” is not used in polite requests.

CHOOSE
• to select from a number of possible alternatives; decide on and pick out.
• to prefer or decide (to do something).

This past weekend, Lucy and I led our first event in our HONESTY WELL series, Holiday Integrity. It’s a series that will continue through 2025, where we will explore deeper concepts of being human and navigating our complex lives.

I mention this because we engaged in various “choosing” activities from guided and creative canvas meditations, qigong, yin yoga, and deep conversations. We wrapped it up with a small art project entitled, “Creating Your Season.” I adore the word “creating”; it falls into the category of selecting and not just wanting. Let me explain.

The energetics of when we focus on “I want” come with the idea that we are limited, separated from what we desire, and basically hoping for something to change. We may also feel very alone in our wanting. “I choose” is claiming our right and intention to move into whatever we wish to experience (create), understanding everything is fully available to us.

Take a moment with a few deep breaths and say out loud something you have been wanting in your life, “I want (fill in the blank).” Now come back to center, and again take a few deep breaths, and say, “I choose (same fill-in-the-blank).”

Can you feel the difference? One has a little more of a feeling of powerlessness; the other is a full expression of your authentic power and your complete ability to co-create.

What do you choose today? 

What do you choose in this moment? 

What do you choose to create?

Choosing is co-creating with the universe; how beautiful is that? It allows for something better than “wanting.” Here’s an invitation to do with me throughout this holiday season and beyond: instead of the habit of saying, “I want,” let’s say, “I choose…” and add on “…this or something better.” Because the universe always has our back, we simply have to ask and then have no attachments to how or when that chosen desire comes into fruition.

Have fun experimenting with this, and please comment below and let me know your thoughts. 

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The idea for this insight came from the astrologer Pam Younghans, who posted an excerpt channeling from Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young (Trinity Esoterics).